Imagine your child as an adult describing their open adoption experience. What do you hope they will be able to say about you? How did you view their other parents? In what ways did you support their relationship with them?
I hope Kidlet will be able to say I am present, available. That I was/am able and willing to answer any questions he has or discuss any topic with him. I hope he will say I am a good person. I hope he will see me as family and not think twice about including me in his future life. I hope he will recognize that I’ve only ever said good things about his birth dad.
I hope he will view my interactions with his parents as positive, respectful, and friendly. That I’ve never done anything to question or deminish their authority and have always looked to them to make the parenting decisions. I hope he’ll see that I’ve also treated his brother with love. I hope that my actions show my belief that even though you can’t choose relatives you can choose family; and his parents and his brother to be a part of who I consider my family.
I hope he’ll look back and see that he was always surrounded by love.