It wont surprise anyone who knows me to hear I over think things.
Its tough to know when to speak out and when to keep my mouth shut. Too often in this world of adoption I come across post or hear comments I want to respond to. But too often I stop myself. Should I say something should I not?
Todays moment was brought on by a woman who referred to adoption as the solution to her infertility. I don’t want to make her feel attacked while she is going through the pain of infertility. I also don’t want her to adopt thinking it will cure that pain.
I want to explain to her that first she needs to mourn and heal and perhaps even consider counseling. Then she can adopt but it wont make the loss go away. I want to tell her to read the blogs of adoptees. To understand that bringing a child into a family to replace the biological children she couldn’t have is not a good idea.
I also however have been told I’m harsh, and I know I sure as hell dont listen to random strangers who cricize so what to do?
How do you tell a complete stranger something they won’t want to hear in a way that they will be receptive? I’d not waste my time worrrying about it except that it will potentially affect a child.
