September 30, 2008
· Filed under Adoption, Grad School
Thank you to all of you who have wished me well as I travel through this period of unemployment.
I started another quarter of grad school today and am really excited about one of the assignments. My group will be making up our “ideal” agency and presenting it. My group will be using my ideas for an options counseling agency. A non-biased no ties to an adoption agency; not funded by potential adoptive parents; all your options; all your possible services; the good the bad the ugly; the there are no win win win situations there are drawbacks in every solution truth.
So here is where I need your help I was sitting in class and remembered a blog that went private a little bit ago. Well that doesn’t narrow it down any since a lot of blogs have disappeared or gone private. This specific blogger had spent a lot of time and effort putting together a collage of photos. Photos that showed first parents and first parents with their placed child. Photos that showed that we are real people.
What I would like to do is put together a collage similar to this. A slide show to play at the beginning of my presentation while I’m introducing the idea for our “ideal” agency. It would be shown to my class of 17 plus one professor. All of these people already know my status as a birth mom. I would not publish this anywhere or show it to anyone beyond my class. So please please please please please please please please please email me photos of yourself with or without your placed child. Since this idea is still in progress if you’d like to include just a bit about yourself that you wouldn’t mind shared with my class if the idea evolves to anything more than a background slide show.
Email any pictures you’d like to contribute to my project to: therapyisexpensive@hotmail.com
Thanks in advance for all the help I know ya’ll will give!!!
September 26, 2008
· Filed under Uncategorized
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September 18, 2008
· Filed under Adoption, Friends, Grad School, Politics, venting
those are my options. And tonight I chose drink.
Today was our quarterly all staff meeting. I went to work expecting to sit through a boring training, complain a bit then come home. Since it was my first day at work after a week and a half vacation I thought it’d be a good way to ease myself back into work. I arrived at the location and said hello to my coworkers I hadn’t seen in awhile (one who’d been on vaction before I left). We chatted and joked…little did we know.
Instead of the training we were told our agency is broke. We are shutting down. I’m only employed until the end of the month. Shock only begins to describe it.
So at 10am I was learning I was soon to be unemployed beginning at noon I was beginning to tell my clients they would soon be homeless. These are mostly pregnant or parenting young women. One is on bedrest. One just gave birth. One who only got housing last week. I could go on and list the trials of my clients but I wont. The point is I spent the day telling my clients that in 30 days they would once again be homeless.
Have you ever had to do that? Can you even imagine finding out you’re unemployed…or soon to be unemployed and then having to tell others they will soon be homeless. Its heart wrenching. Additionally even some of my most entitled clients become caring and put two and two together and start getting concerned with me and my coworkers and figure out that their pending homelessness equates to us being unemployed and asks if we will be ok. Heartwrenching. So for 7 hours I travel from site to site breaking the news.
I finally finish ( well almost because i stil have one client who wont be available until tomorrow) and i call a dear friend of mine. Cowboy. I’ve mentioned him before I’ve known him since jr high. He also got laid off today. Unfortunately his is effective immediately. So i listen to him on my way to my parents house where i beg for a loan to buy a few months worth of migraine pills. Then i head to his house where we compare stories of being fired.
Now I’m home. One roommate is on vacation the other is getting drunk with me. Both work for the same agency. yep thats a household of three all of which are unemployed at the end of the month. I will be applying for unemployment. I will be applying for foodstamps. I applogize to all you right wingers but I like to eat so I will be applying to all those social programs you hate..ya know like the one that was eliminated thus making me unemployed. I actually had a really good blog pending about social programs. about the things my clients were struggling with. but then this happened. I’m unemployed. And drunk. By the way. Do you know how long it takes to type in a legible manner when you’re drunk. Tonights blog took about 5x the time it usually takes to type thanks to my friend vodka….
eta its not a typo i’m out of a job at the end of the month but due to legalities our clients have 30 days. of course they’ll get no services or assistance after the end of the month since we’ll all be gone but at least they ahve a place to stay beyond that..
September 14, 2008
· Filed under Adoption
I’m home from a week long family vacation. It was nice, but something was missing. I managed to not kill my sister and keep my temper with my father. I enjoyed the sun and warmth. I wish he’d been there. At some point I’ll get used to family events with one family member missing. Unfortunately this is not some point.
